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Passive aggressive co-workers
passive aggressive co-workers / Career / 9:08 PM - Friday May 16, 2008
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A Creative (Female, New Orleans, 36-45, Artist / Musician / Writer) asked:


How would you handle a passive aggressive supervisor?

Update: May 18, 2008.
Thank you! My mom always said to "kill them with kindness." This person does not do her job. She expects everyone to help her but does not give it in return. It really frustrates me. I walk into work with a smile on ready for whatever the day brings. The people at work have said things in front of her about how happy I am, how hard I work, and how patient I am. When they say this to her it makes my work life more difficult because she will spend the rest of the time trying to break me. But, I won't budge. I really want to hit her or tell her off. But I just keep smiling! I know that she wants a confrontation with me. That is what makes it frustrating for me. I can feel her tension toward me, which makes being around her awkward. That is the thing I can't handle. I don't even want to speak to her. There are only 3 of us in the office. The other co-worker and I get along great. This woman has always had a diffiult time getting along with the women in this company. I feel like I have to fix it for everyone else. But a person like this can not be fixed unless they actually see how they are. I feel like I constantly have to be on gaurd around her. I take it one day at a time and hope for a change. Thak you again!


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A Cool Mom (Female, Cincinnati, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

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I have..and it's not fun.
The only way to handle her was when she got fired.

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A Life of the Party (Female, Atlanta, 29-35, Financial / Banking) answered:

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Key their shiny car.

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A Hippie Chick (Female, 46-55, Hospitality) answered:

Screenname: buffalothighs88


NEVER lose your patience. (In front of them!)

Like Epi said, kill them with kindness and serenity.

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An Alternative Girl (Female, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:


Same way I do now bitch at him till he gets tired of hearing me and hehandles what needs to be handled

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A Creative (Female, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: nightingale226


very gingerly!!! :)

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A Thinker (Female, New York, 56-65, Civil Service) answered:


Try to transfer out ASAP 'cause that crap won't stop!

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A Hippie Chick (Female, 46-55, Hospitality) answered:

Screenname: buffalothighs88


NEVER lose your patience. (In front of them!)

Like Epi said, kill them with kindness and serenity.

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A Thinker (Female, Atlanta, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: sincerity


Know your stuff.
Use facts and logic when communicating with him/her.
Use them as a resource.

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A Thinker (Female, New York, 29-35, Teaching) answered:

Screenname: electragold21


Ugh. Really--ugh. It's a no win situation. All you can do is try to "slink" out of it by being nice--be so nice s/he can't find fault with you and thus an excuse to attempt to get a reaction from you.

But be advised--the person in question will look for any little teensy thing to find fault WITH, because s/he wants the confrontation that s/he "doesn't really" want. Ugh. Try to get away from him / her.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 46-55, Political / Government) answered:

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I'd pull a prank on them that they'll never forget......and I'm not talking about hiding their lunch or shoes in the freezer either......

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A Life of the Party (Female, Indianapolis, 46-55, Administrative) answered:

Screenname: kmf1


Tell them they are bad and send them to a round confrence room and tell them to stand in the corner.

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A Thinker (Female, 56-65, Financial / Banking) answered:

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At my age I would retire.

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