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Tattoo parlor at 15
tattoo parlor at 15 / Family & Parenting / 9:02 AM - Saturday May 17, 2008
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A Sweet Sarah (Female, 36-45, Who Cares?) asked:


my son (15) went to dinner with a friend and his family for the friend's 16th b-day. He is a nice kid and i like him. Anyhow, the kid's dad and girlfriend took them to a tatoo parlour to get a 3 month temporary tattoo. It sounded like it was a bar with the parlour in the back. My son started telling me some of the nasty things he heard and laughing about them. They were very nasty. So i told him there were something that are just not appropriate to repeat to mom. (my kids know they can tell me anything) i didn't get upset with him just nicely told him he doesn't need to repeat everything to me.

My question to the parent's, especially the dads: should i be upset about him going to this place? it sounded pretty wild but being that i am a woman, am i over reacting? The friend's dad is considered a "biker" and my son referred to this place as a biker bar. I don't want to over react and be the over protective mom.

PS: I have nothing against tattoos, as i have one.

Update: May 17, 2008.
I went to see the place myself today. Not nearly as bad as my son made it sound to be. It is actually a Harley dealership with a restaurant/bar attached that yuo can watch the bikes being worked on while you eat/drink. ANd the tat parlor is upstairs in a different room. And there is a patio to eat on too. Of course my son exaggerated a little bit to be on the "tough" guy side thing. Testerone, a wonderful thing... ps: the food was AWESOME!


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A Rebel (Male, 36-45, Technical) answered:

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I would be upset if my own son were to go with. I think it showed very poor judgement on the fathers part to take either of the boy's. As a biker I understand what happens in the places we frequent. When my son turned eighteen he gained the right to make his own choices and I can only hope he has learned to make the right ones.

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A Cool Mom (Female, 46-55, Teaching) answered:

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I'm with you.
It sounds like the boys were taken to an adult-type of establishment.
At age 15 and 16, fathers should be taking their sons camping, golfing, to throw the football, fishing, teaching them to drive, trips to the mountains, the ocean...you get the idea...WHOLESOME stuff.
If a dad takes a new 16 year old to the tatoo parlor this year what will it take to "entertain" next year, or the next?
I suspect Dad thought he was beeing "cool".

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A Rebel (Male, 26-28, Celebrity) answered:

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Actually no i dont think he was wrong or out of line for doing it and ill explain why.

Dads usually lead by example in a lot of ways and i think its good for young guys to be put in situations like that because later on in life you never know where your son might end up or who he might need to know how to deal with and by taking them there himself and letting them observe they learn how to deal with a situation if it should ever arise again.

As far as being upset with anyone i think its a question of do your trust your parenting skills and values you have instilled in him to hold true in true life situations. If you do then you have nothing to worry about at all.

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A Career Man (Male, Los Angeles, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:

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Your eyes are messing with my eyes

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A Thinker (Female, 36-45) answered:

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Well, it wouldn't have been my choice, but if the guy is a biker he probably thought that would be a really neat gift. I'm sure the kids thought so too. As long as the kids weren't drinking, I think I would be okay with the one-time visit.

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:

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I honestly think that the dad here, should of asked ur permission about taking ur son along...Doesn't sound like a very nice place for kids....

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 46-55) answered:

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I don't think that he should have taken him htere with out ask you first.

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A Creative (Female, Philadelphia, 46-55, Managerial) answered:

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No, your son has or will see all this. Better he be chaperoned at least by the dad.

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A Creative (Male, 46-55, Civil Service) answered:

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It's a problem, particularly after the fact. Almost anything that you might say to your son's friend's father is going to sound like you're passing judgement on his judgement as a father. Different people have different values, and you'll probably make an impression that you'd rather not make.

On the other hand, your son could have given the situation a once over and concluded that this was not the kind of place mom wanted him to be. He could even assessed the joint independently of your values and concluded that he really didn't want to be there himself. Neither happened. You might want to chat with your boy about that. The world is changing, and not for the better. Teenagers need to be just as watchful as adults.

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A Life of the Party (Male, Cincinnati, 29-35) answered:

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as a parent you should always be concerned where your child might be, and you have every right. its good to know that the place wasnt as bad as first thought, but there are alot of people who dont consider their lifestyle different or inappropriate. we have a strict rule, never go to the next place without calling first, break that rule grounded for two weeks. we as parents have got to make some of the smarter thought decisions that are kids wont always do. i dont think you overeacted.

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A Guy Critical (Male, Indianapolis, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:


thanks for letting me know where a litte bit of the tax money i pay is going to go!!!!!!!!!

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